Divorce is messy enough if it is only you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse going through the process. But, if like many couples in Pennsylvania, you have children going through it with you, the process becomes eminently more complicated. You may be wondering, “How can I best help my children through divorce?” According to Kid’s Health, one of the best things you can do for your child is keep your lives as consistent as possible.
As most parents know, routine helps children out a lot, and keeping your child’s routine as uninterrupted as is possible will do a lot to help them through divorce. This means that if you can keep the children in their current living situation and schooling situation, this is ideal. Obviously this is not always possible (or desirable in certain circumstances), but keeping the schedule as consistent as you can is always the best way to go.
Co-parenting is generally the best path to pursue if at all humanly possible, and the best way to go about doing this is to establish a consistent routine of visitation quickly. Even before the ink is dry on the divorce papers, if you can amicably come up with a co-parenting schedule for the kids, this is ideal. Assuming that the kids can stay in their original home with one parent, it is best for the other parent to find a stable living situation quickly so that co-parenting can progress smoothly.
Remember to keep any negative feelings about your ex-spouse to yourself. While there may be hard feelings, it is important to remember that your ex-spouse is still one of your child’s parents.